When we grow up, we look up to our parents, see them as our rock, count on them, and believe they are there to love and protect us. And some parents do that. They love, protect, cherish and raise us wholeheartedly, with our best interests in mind. Unfortunately, not all parents do that, or not everything they think is good for us it really is. Sometimes, some parents believe they know best, and their kids are meant to listen to them undoubtedly, because, in the end, kids are kids.
As social beings, we need to know that we belong and are protected by someone else. This is how babies dare to walk and talk because they know their parents are there to watch their steps. Later in our lives, we learn that our friends help us evolve because they understand us, and they are there to witness the new roads we take.
When it comes to romantic relationships, I hear over and over again the same phrase: I want to find the right partner/the partner of my dreams, and I’ll live a happy life. Friends or clients, men or women, and even teenagers talk about how much they want to find the man/ woman of their dreams. Every one of us (because I cannot exclude myself) have a mental or actual list of traits we want to find in our ideal partner.
Self-love is not equal to being selfish. You can’t feed others when your pot is empty; you can’t protect others when you don’t wear your armor. As romantic as it may sound, losing yourself to keep someone else in your life does not apply in real life because if you lose yourself trying to please or to help others, you’ll lose them, too.