You’ve found the love of your life. You are madly in love, and you know you are living with The One. When you are together, everything is perfect, and when you’re not in the same room, you keep on smiling because you know you are loved.
As social beings, we need to know that we belong and are protected by someone else. This is how babies dare to walk and talk because they know their parents are there to watch their steps. Later in our lives, we learn that our friends help us evolve because they understand us, and they are there to witness the new roads we take.
It is very interesting how we all blame bullies and bullying and how we try as much as we can to treat others with love and compassion. We tend to see the half-full glass when it comes to other people’s stories, but when it’s about ourselves, we completely forget about empathy and love, and we start judging and punishing the person in the mirror.
Self-love is not equal to being selfish. You can’t feed others when your pot is empty; you can’t protect others when you don’t wear your armor. As romantic as it may sound, losing yourself to keep someone else in your life does not apply in real life because if you lose yourself trying to please or to help others, you’ll lose them, too.
Of course, without knowing someone’s history, without walking in their shoes, or speaking honestly about themselves, it’s challenging to create authentic relationships with them. The labels we put can be very shallow.
People are often resistant to seek help, thinking that they can handle the situation by themselves or with their friends or spouses' help. Some of them compare their problems or obstacles with those of other people, and 100% of the time, they belittle their issues.